My topic now is all about "love" for a child. LOVE is all what our child needs. But how do we show them? Giving the love that our child needs by buying them the material things that they want, like toys, beautiful clothes or whatever in the form of material things is not enough. Of course the joy that they feel in giving them these things is the same joy that we feel because we see them happy. But that joy will not last if our children will not feel the "real" love and affection from us.
We see countless children in this world whose lives are ruined because of bad influences surrounding them. To name a few...drugs, bad company and family problems. To put a blame to a parent ...
or to anybody else cannot solve the problem. Instead, we just need to examine ourselves what is the cause. A lot of factors that we need to consider. It is our responsibility as a parent to look after our child's needs and to secure their future. The "love" that I want to share now for our kids is a "LOVE" with "RESPECT". We all want our children to respect and love us, BUT are we doing the same to them? Without realizing it, if we don't give love and respect to our kids, they will start to have a feeling of grudge against us. They are not going to show it but deep inside they will disrespect us. We need not be a perfect parent...nobody is. But we just have to try the best that we can to be a responsible parent.
Make our kids feel and understand that we are their very "best" and real friend. In this way, they will not hide anything from us. If they make mistake, which they surely will as a part of growing up, we have to make them UNDERSTAND the effect and tell them firmly but in a nice way not to do the same mistake again. We are just here to guide and teach them what is right and wrong but we have to let them understand that their future is in their own hands. We have to give them the freedom to explore their own world but we have to tell them that we are just beside them.
I knew some parents who said they love their children but they want to put their children's future their own way. One example is education. Some parents just don't care to ask their children what course their children want to take, they tried to insist their own choice of education for their kids. For my own point of view, this is not beneficial to our kids. The kids might follow what we want because of fear or respect, but since it is not their choice, they will not take it seriously. The result, they won't study hard and if they fail they will blame us for being asked to take a course which is not their choice. Since we as parents are only here to prepare our children for their good future, let's give them the freedom to follow what choice of education they want. After all this is their future.
We see countless children in this world whose lives are ruined because of bad influences surrounding them. To name a few...drugs, bad company and family problems. To put a blame to a parent ...
or to anybody else cannot solve the problem. Instead, we just need to examine ourselves what is the cause. A lot of factors that we need to consider. It is our responsibility as a parent to look after our child's needs and to secure their future. The "love" that I want to share now for our kids is a "LOVE" with "RESPECT". We all want our children to respect and love us, BUT are we doing the same to them? Without realizing it, if we don't give love and respect to our kids, they will start to have a feeling of grudge against us. They are not going to show it but deep inside they will disrespect us. We need not be a perfect parent...nobody is. But we just have to try the best that we can to be a responsible parent.
Make our kids feel and understand that we are their very "best" and real friend. In this way, they will not hide anything from us. If they make mistake, which they surely will as a part of growing up, we have to make them UNDERSTAND the effect and tell them firmly but in a nice way not to do the same mistake again. We are just here to guide and teach them what is right and wrong but we have to let them understand that their future is in their own hands. We have to give them the freedom to explore their own world but we have to tell them that we are just beside them.
I knew some parents who said they love their children but they want to put their children's future their own way. One example is education. Some parents just don't care to ask their children what course their children want to take, they tried to insist their own choice of education for their kids. For my own point of view, this is not beneficial to our kids. The kids might follow what we want because of fear or respect, but since it is not their choice, they will not take it seriously. The result, they won't study hard and if they fail they will blame us for being asked to take a course which is not their choice. Since we as parents are only here to prepare our children for their good future, let's give them the freedom to follow what choice of education they want. After all this is their future.
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