Here are my tips.
Year 1 - At four months your baby starts to respond with movements, smiles, and her eyes starts to follow objects when moved in front of her, sometimes thru excitement, her mouth drooling with saliva:) At seven months more or less, she can sit up fairly well but with some support. She rolls from his back to his stomach and moves around. She now starts to
recognize the other members of your family. You would be happy to hear her first first words "ma-ma" or "da-da". Tips: Let her feel your warmth thru you hugs. If she has nanny because you're working, make sure she feels you when you get back home even when she is asleep. She knows thru her instinct.
Year 2 - She sleeps longer and has a number of teeth which makes her more cute. Her progress to walk increase and now she can run but stumbles more often because her bones not so strong yet. The number of words she can say now is increasing to maybe about 100 or more roughly. It depends because some babies are delayed in their speech progress or some just naturally so quiet. I had an experience with my daughter at this stage. She has strange behavior that can hardly explained. At exactly 12 midnight she wakes up and she play by herself but she plays like she is playing with "somebody" up until 4 a.m. This happened every night until one month. Sometimes I don't let her sleep the whole day after she woke up from dawn sleep to make her tired and not to wake up at midnight the following day, but still she continued the strange behavior. Even though I let her sleep at 9 p.m. after having no sleep the whole day, she still wakes up at exactly 12 midnight. She already look so tired but I can't do anything. Thanks GOD she only experienced that for one month. Tips: Make sure to be responsive always with your baby's "antiques" :). She just want to show off her abilities and be praised. This is a moment of real happiness to you as you enjoy her innocent behavior. This is also the time that you implement the do's and don'ts. Why? You will find out below. Oh...I almost forget. You should always be aware of her silence while she is awake. She might be doing "something" like playing with her poo-poo in case you forgot to put on her nappy or intended to be for her butt to have fresh air:)
Year 3 - Up until she is four to five. Your child is now showing her temper, tantrums and other behavior that is a part of her growing stage. She desires some things to do and wants to do it herself without being disturbed. Beware...that if your disturb her focus in her activity, you might get rattled if she cry on top of her lungs out of anger :) Even you scold her, she does not care and is not afraid at all. She is now starting to be stubborn and she does not care if you are bigger than her in size unless you show her your "angry bird face". My daughter use to tell me "I don't want to see my mama's face like a "red angry bird" followed with a very sweet smile :) Tips: The do's and don'ts should now be exercised for her to start to learn the good and bad. I believe that by doing so, you are starting to fill her "small brain" for good things that she can use on her way to have her first education as soon as she reach the age of five as a nursery.
Year 3 - Up until she is four to five. Your child is now showing her temper, tantrums and other behavior that is a part of her growing stage. She desires some things to do and wants to do it herself without being disturbed. Beware...that if your disturb her focus in her activity, you might get rattled if she cry on top of her lungs out of anger :) Even you scold her, she does not care and is not afraid at all. She is now starting to be stubborn and she does not care if you are bigger than her in size unless you show her your "angry bird face". My daughter use to tell me "I don't want to see my mama's face like a "red angry bird" followed with a very sweet smile :) Tips: The do's and don'ts should now be exercised for her to start to learn the good and bad. I believe that by doing so, you are starting to fill her "small brain" for good things that she can use on her way to have her first education as soon as she reach the age of five as a nursery.
I had a friend who saw how I train my child when she was three. She said I should not do that way because she reasoned out that my child will learn the "good ways" herself sooner. After a while, her son came (4 years old), jumped on her lap, hugged and kissed her, then ask money to buy something. When my friend said "NO", to my surprise and to her surprise too with mixed embarrassment, her son slapped her face and threw bad words against her. She can't look straight at me, than I said, "we have our different method in raising our child".
Another important thing for the don't is to train your child not to be so naughty. She is now in a stage where out of curiosity she will touch everything that she sees and wants to play with it. If she gets used to touching things especially breakable things, this can hurt herself especially if you are busy with something and can't see what she's doing. It will also make her "unwanted" to your friends if you visit their house with your baby when she touches the displays especially breakable of your friends' house. Your friends can say in front of you "it's okey" but deep inside you don't know what they are thinking. Before you know it, if you want to visit your friends again especially those who likes to maintain an organized house, they can set an alibis so you can't come. In other words, you and your child is unwelcome. It shall be so sad for you and your child.
Parents are the model of their children and their first "teacher" aside from being their parents. The responsibility of parents are not limited but unlimited until their last breath. As the saying goes "education always starts at home." Even the first alphabet, the children learn first from their parents regardless if the parents are literate or illiterate. What the children see with their parents is what they follow. If children always hear their parents throwing bad words against each other, surely, children will lost their respect to their parents and they will start to disobey and disrespect them. And from this situation the children will slowly develop violent actions that can probably lead them to juvenile delinquency.
Be a good example to your child. It is not only to your child but first and foremost to GOD. Your love for your children should be "unconditional". They appear in this world not to their choice, therefore, it is your responsibility to provide your child everything your child needs...love, affection, discipline, education and so on and so forth.
I know some parents who used to say to their children "I took care of you, I sent you to school until you reach this stage of your successful life, now is your turn to pay me back to me what I have given you." I myself witness situations like this and I can't help myself to have a feeling of anger and disappointment. Some parents are just "ignorant" and selfish to their children. They treat their children as "investment" that after how many years they will receive the "return of their investment". So sad to think about such parents.
Children are the future foundations of a community and a nation and it is one of your great achievement if you can raise your child to be a good citizen.
Parents are the model of their children and their first "teacher" aside from being their parents. The responsibility of parents are not limited but unlimited until their last breath. As the saying goes "education always starts at home." Even the first alphabet, the children learn first from their parents regardless if the parents are literate or illiterate. What the children see with their parents is what they follow. If children always hear their parents throwing bad words against each other, surely, children will lost their respect to their parents and they will start to disobey and disrespect them. And from this situation the children will slowly develop violent actions that can probably lead them to juvenile delinquency.
Be a good example to your child. It is not only to your child but first and foremost to GOD. Your love for your children should be "unconditional". They appear in this world not to their choice, therefore, it is your responsibility to provide your child everything your child needs...love, affection, discipline, education and so on and so forth.
I know some parents who used to say to their children "I took care of you, I sent you to school until you reach this stage of your successful life, now is your turn to pay me back to me what I have given you." I myself witness situations like this and I can't help myself to have a feeling of anger and disappointment. Some parents are just "ignorant" and selfish to their children. They treat their children as "investment" that after how many years they will receive the "return of their investment". So sad to think about such parents.
Children are the future foundations of a community and a nation and it is one of your great achievement if you can raise your child to be a good citizen.
Year 5 - This stage is now a changing situation for you and your child. She is quite competent and independent now having reached the end of her early childhood and get her ready to go out into the world of nursery and kindergarten or school. She has mixed emotions of fear and excitement in going to school because she will be left alone with the teachers and schoolmates who are strangers. Excitement, because on the eve of her first day at school she can't wait to use her school bag, wear her new clothes (or uniform), wear her new shoes, and read her books (cartoon). However, as soon as she enters the school premises with the crowd of kids and teachers at school the following day and you are about to leave, she cries on top of her lungs thinking that she is surrounded with "monsters" :)
Everyday being together with your child, as soon as you reach home, you feel a great change in your routine...and you are now in the next chapter of your life as a mother. While doing the things you used to do at home with your child, here you are alone with no child to disturb you for at least a number of hours. Tips: This is the time to budget your time and money. You have to divide your time between your responsibility with your husband and your child. The situation differs though if you are a single mother. After your child's fist day at school, ask her how she enjoy being at school but be sure to listen to her attentively and be responsive with excitement to let her feel your happy response. Children have different reactions on this matter. Some children never get excited and don't like to go to school the next day or the coming days. Some children enjoy playing with her new playmates (schoolmates), it depends. You have to make sure that her school needs is always attended to motivate her and arouse more of her interest in going to school. However, there are some kids that is hardly convinced.
Your child's interest in toys, other things and junk foods especially those wrapped in cartoon images is hard to be ignored. You have to slowly teach your child now the useful and useless things. One way of teaching her the importance of wise spending.
I remember my very good friend who brought his child three years of age one day to a toy section in a department store. He is Chinese and very smart to deal with his child. His child saw a big remote car, pointed to his Dad and want to have it. Using reverse psychology, his Dad pointed more remote cars until his child got fed up and said "Daddy, let's go"! It's a simple but "funny" way to discourage a child from what he wanted. However, it is a very good example to follow.
I notice some children if I go to supermarket or department stores with their parents to be very troublesome if they point at something but the parents refuse to buy. Even in front of a crowd, these children "fight" with their parents, crawl on the floor or stomping their feet. Some parents can't control their emotions and it's either they scold their children even in front of the crowd or put their hands against them. Some just drag their children while they are crying. Sad to witness because this can lead children to grow violently. There are some situations though that children with this behavior will change. Having said this, I remember my friend and her four year old son.
Emotions are involved in this kind of situation. If you lose your temper, you will surely hurt your child. The solution is: teach your child before she reach her three years of age. If she likes something she has to ask first and wait for your time when she can have it (school needs is a different matter). If she is trained right from the start and you bring her with you in any store, that's what she will surely do. I know because that's how I trained my child. If she want something that attracts her attention, she just say "Mama, as soon as you have money can I have this"?
Year 6 will be next...thanks folks for patiently reading.
Everyday being together with your child, as soon as you reach home, you feel a great change in your routine...and you are now in the next chapter of your life as a mother. While doing the things you used to do at home with your child, here you are alone with no child to disturb you for at least a number of hours. Tips: This is the time to budget your time and money. You have to divide your time between your responsibility with your husband and your child. The situation differs though if you are a single mother. After your child's fist day at school, ask her how she enjoy being at school but be sure to listen to her attentively and be responsive with excitement to let her feel your happy response. Children have different reactions on this matter. Some children never get excited and don't like to go to school the next day or the coming days. Some children enjoy playing with her new playmates (schoolmates), it depends. You have to make sure that her school needs is always attended to motivate her and arouse more of her interest in going to school. However, there are some kids that is hardly convinced.
Your child's interest in toys, other things and junk foods especially those wrapped in cartoon images is hard to be ignored. You have to slowly teach your child now the useful and useless things. One way of teaching her the importance of wise spending.
I remember my very good friend who brought his child three years of age one day to a toy section in a department store. He is Chinese and very smart to deal with his child. His child saw a big remote car, pointed to his Dad and want to have it. Using reverse psychology, his Dad pointed more remote cars until his child got fed up and said "Daddy, let's go"! It's a simple but "funny" way to discourage a child from what he wanted. However, it is a very good example to follow.
I notice some children if I go to supermarket or department stores with their parents to be very troublesome if they point at something but the parents refuse to buy. Even in front of a crowd, these children "fight" with their parents, crawl on the floor or stomping their feet. Some parents can't control their emotions and it's either they scold their children even in front of the crowd or put their hands against them. Some just drag their children while they are crying. Sad to witness because this can lead children to grow violently. There are some situations though that children with this behavior will change. Having said this, I remember my friend and her four year old son.
Emotions are involved in this kind of situation. If you lose your temper, you will surely hurt your child. The solution is: teach your child before she reach her three years of age. If she likes something she has to ask first and wait for your time when she can have it (school needs is a different matter). If she is trained right from the start and you bring her with you in any store, that's what she will surely do. I know because that's how I trained my child. If she want something that attracts her attention, she just say "Mama, as soon as you have money can I have this"?
Year 6 will be next...thanks folks for patiently reading.
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